Welcome back to Sunday Journal, a chance to start your week out with short, quiet reflections and advice for life.
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This week’s edition tackles the subject of etiquette and politeness — why they matter, particularly in today’s less-than-polite environment.
The topic of etiquette is old. Not like Victorian era old. Like ancient history.
Nearly 5,000 years ago Ptahotep, a minister of the Pharaoh Isesi wrote the “First Code of Conduct.” This manual, appearing two thousand years before the Bible, showed young people how to find their way in society by following civilized rules of good manners.
When he was a young man, George Washington wrote a handbook called Rules of Civility & Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation. (It’s worth picking up a copy. Really.)
He based it on a set of rules composed by French Jesuits in 1595 and the first rule establishes the importance of courtesy toward others:
“Every action done in company ought to be with some sign of respect to those that are present.”
With that in mind, let’s reflect on the underlying reasons behind etiquette and politeness.
Reflections
Social Harmony
Etiquette and politeness are the lubricants that keep social interactions running smoothly. They help to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings, creating a more harmonious and pleasant social environment.
Respect
Politeness is a way of showing respect for others. It acknowledges their worth and dignity, regardless of their social status, age, or background.
Effective Communication
Being polite enhances communication. When people are respectful and considerate in their interactions, they are more likely to be heard and understood. This is crucial in both personal and professional settings.
Professional Success
In the workplace, etiquette and politeness can significantly contribute to professional success. People who are polite and respectful are often viewed more favorably by their colleagues, superiors, and clients. They are more likely to be chosen for promotions and leadership roles.
Cultural Sensitivity
Different cultures have different norms and expectations regarding etiquette and politeness. Understanding and practicing these norms is essential for cross-cultural communication and for avoiding unintentional offenses.
Building Relationships
Politeness and etiquette are key to building and maintaining positive relationships. Treating others with respect and courtesy can foster trust, cooperation, and loyalty in personal and professional relationships.
Self-Image
How we present ourselves to others reflects on our self-image. Politeness and good etiquette contribute to a positive self-image and can boost self-confidence.
Personal Growth
Practicing good manners and politeness can be a path to personal growth and self-improvement. It encourages self-awareness and self-discipline.
Mental Well-Being
Being polite and respectful can contribute to one's mental well-being. It reduces stress, as it minimizes the likelihood of confrontations and conflicts.
Community and Society
Etiquette and politeness are essential for the well-being of communities and societies. They help maintain order, encourage civility, and contribute to the overall betterment of society.
Quote:
“Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire called conscience.” — George Washington
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